An Open Letter To My Future Daughter On Her 18th Birthday

I don’t really know how to start writing this letter. Why? Because you’re not even in this world yet. Yeah. Your mom’s weird — writing a letter to somebody not born yet or to somebody who has a possibility of not even existing. Who knows, right? I’m 21 but today, I will try to talk as if I am old enough to be an eighteen-year-old-young-lady’s mother.

Oh honey, look at you. You’re all grown-up now. I know how long you have waited for this. I really do not get the thing about 18th birthdays. I don’t know why most girls look forward to that day of their lives. Honestly, when I was 17, I wasn’t looking forward the of my 18th birthday; I was actually looking forward to the day of my college graduation. If you’ll ask me how did I celebrate my 18th, well, I celebrated it with my family and close friends at our house. It was a simple celebration. I do not know how you will be celebrating your 18th but for sure, I’ll make you feel extra special on that day.

Now let’s go to the part where I tell you why I wrote this letter. I just want to share things I have learned in my twenty-one years of existence. I know I’m not old enough to preach something about what I learned from experiences because I’m too young for that but I believe the things written below are more than enough for you at this point in your life. Let’s get started!

  1. Man’s ultimate goal is to achieve genuine happiness. That’s according to Aristotle. I’ll leave the explanation part to your Philosophy professor. I believe at this time, you have already read Desiderata by Max Ehrmann. What do the last two lines say? I’ll help you remember; “Be cheerful; strive to be happy.”
  2. I don’t own you; the world owns you. I know there will come a time that I have to let you go and submit you to this world. I don’t know how to explain further. If you can’t understand now, you’ll understand soon.
  3. Live your dream. Dreams always are about success and happiness.
  4. You don’t really need a guy to be complete. A man should be complementing; not supplementing. Always remember that before engaging in a relationship, you have to feel complete first.
  5. Focus on today; the past is gone and the future isn’t here yet. Worrying about the past and the future will take you nowhere. Focus on what’s in front of you now. Use the past as a guide and the future as an inspiration.
  6. Follow your heart. Your heart will take you to places — happy places.
  7. Apply these two contradicting statements in your life: take risks and when in doubt, don’t do it. Confusing, right? But you’ll know when to use each of the statements. Use your instinct and your common sense.
  8. God will never forsake you. Whatever happens always keep you faith and trust in Him and everything will fall on its proper place.
  9. It’s better than to be hurt than to hurt.
  10. It will always be too soon to quit. Losers become losers because they quit. You’re a champion in every single way,honey. Keep on trying and you’ll get there sooner than you expected.
  11. Walk on and own the road not taken. Make a difference.
  12. Martin Luther’s predestination thing isn’t true. You are the master of your fate, the captain of your soul.
  13. If in the future, you think you need to take revenge on someone, do it in the best way possible. How? Be successful and become the best version of yourself.
  14. Never engage in a relationship with someone who doesn’t fear God and who doesn’t love God more than you. Yes, you read that right. The man who is worthy enough of your heart is someone who loves God more than you, more than anything, anyone else.
  15. Before others and after our Lord, love yourself.
  16. Achieve greatness rather than fame.
  17. Do not rush things. Patience is a virtue.
  18. You only have one life to live; make the most out of it. Be wise and live it without regrets.

Done! Enjoy your day, honey! I know you might hate it but… smooches from mom!

Grabbed from the Internet

Grabbed from the Internet


I wonder how many R-18 parties have you attended before this date. Oh well, that doesn’t matter. Mom started drinking at 13 and partying at 16. High school’s not high school without booze, music and dance!


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